There is a great difference in excellency, usefulness, and comfort between people of clear, digested knowledge, and confused, undigested apprehensions. -Richard Baxter

Archive for recovering sex

new book. old subject. fresh comment

Hey, click on the book for a link to a listing for an upcoming book written by none other than Josh Foist’s sister!  Apparently we have here a playful and thoughtful counterpoint to HBO’s (and now syndicated tv’s) comment on the landscape of sexuality in our culture.  The book release is set for early next week.  Anyone want to read it and write up a review for us?

marriage requires and update in your prescription

We strike a balance around here–at least we try to: there are times for saying loudly and clearly, “singleness is not a second-class existence and possesses privileges as significant to the life in Christ as those that accrue to marriage.”

There is also time for speaking of and for marriage, and doing all we can to prepare you for it if you’re single, and fortify you in it if you’re married. To that end, here’s a series of youtube videos (HT: Between Two Worlds) from the author of When Sinners Say, I Do, Dave Harvey. They’re brief synopses of each chapter. Read the rest of this entry »

pornography: a form of suicide

Pornography: ubiquitous, an inordinately lucrative industry, it’s very definition debated in the highest corridors of public discourse, and a devastation to innumerable relationships and careers.

This is an imagined story of what is probably an all too real experience, repeated more often that we’d care to know.


There was nothing particularly noteworthy about Richard.  He garnered neither many complaints nor many compliments.  He, like many his age, had parents who loved him, but they had their own marital problems-sometimes so severe their caustic words sprayed at each other like acid.  Richard and his siblings, while still children, had always felt paralyzed whenever their parents fought, desperate for them to stop the angry shouting but never knowing how to intervene.  As teenagers they resigned themselves to living in their parents line of fire and quietly retreating whenever tempers flared. Read the rest of this entry »

sex in the Spirit

this from a little ditty on Galatians 5:16-26 a couple years ago

Moulin Rouge Say “desires of the flesh” in mixed company and you’re likely to get what? Smirks, chuckles, and people moving quietly away from you. Why? Because it seems an outdated phrase, or that those desires are, instead of reviled, now championed, exalted. What am I getting at? These desires are what many people would reason: “those are good things; they’re what make life worth living. Any proscription of them is just an outdated attempt at keeping people in line; or they’re overreactions to otherwise harmless expressions of pathos.”

But Paul puts these out here. And we’d be wise to consider what they’re really expressions of. Most people would see them for the most part as essentially harmless. But Paul means not only to clarify what is in opposition to the life guided and led by the Spirit, but to expose what those kind of expressions reveal about those who engage in them. For every single one of them—every single of these fleshly desires—is a good desire gone bad. A perfectly natural and holy desire twisted into something destructive, and in the end, pleasure-killing rather than pleasure-finding. They are desires divorced from their intended ends.

Consider fornication: Read the rest of this entry »

why ‘hooking up’ needs to have its original meaning restored…

or if evolutionary biology doesn’t float your boat, perhaps a little ditty about casual sex might pique your interest–this from one who bought into one of the themes of the early feminist movement, and is now feeling as if she’d been sold a bill of goods.

And if you’re interested in more of Dawn Eden’s adventures, have a look here.

disrobing depravity

I grew up in a very typical Midwest Methodist home, where there wasn’t a lot of hugging and kissing. My life has been a response to that.” –Hugh Hefner, founder and CEO of Playboy Magazine.

You might say that our depravity expresses itself most clearly in how we either shift blame elsewhere for our actions or at least minimize our own contribution to what we’ve done. I know in my soul that when confronted with my absence of integrity, my first response is to look for a scapegoat, or to minimize the significance of my action. So depravity is kind of like the chameleon that wants to blend in and have everyone believe it isn’t really there. It lurks; it slinks, but it doesn’t want to be found.